Reflective Listening

Reflective Listening

This is an essential tool for most clients wanting to improve their intimate relationships. This handout offers a description of reflective listening and gives practice scenarios so skills can be developed.

When demonstrating this to clients I take out a small hand mirror and a decorative heart. These are the symbols for teaching this skill, someone shares their heart while the other person simply reflects. Staying in the reflector role is harder than people think. Holding the mirror while they practice the skill helps them stay in the reflective position.