The defining selfishness chart invites clients to see the difference between being selfish and being self-respecting or self-disrespecting. Often, out of fear of being called “selfish” people may find themselves going all the way being self-disrespecting. Fill out the chart with the client or assign as homework. Help them find the descriptors for each of the terms in the various situations. Then look at the answer sheet to see if your ideas are similar to my own.
You can read my blog post about this handout.